There, I've said it, I'm out the closet. I've had enough of people feeding into the insecurities of others telling them that they'll never be a success if they don't have a coach, just so that they can sell their own inexperienced coaching to some unsuspecting person who is desperate for their dreams to come true. We're getting into a time where there are coaches coaching coaches to coach coaches. And as that's all going on there are a thousand other people who are making a success of being in business without even considering booking in with a coach.
Now let's just get clear about something here - I'm not referring to supervision. That's something entirely different and is part of your training. I'm talking about the measure of your success being about whether or not you have a coach, some arbitrary form of validation that some other people have chosen to validate themselves that they are now putting onto you.
Stop listening to this crap that is just being spouted to help people justify what it is that they are doing to achieve THEIR own dream. You don't need a coach to be a coach, and you don't need a coach to be successful. A coach MAY help you, and take you to the next level, but only when you know what it is you are working towards with the coach, when you're working with the right coach to get you there, and when you know what your measure of success will be when you work with that coach.
- What do I expect to get from working with a coach?
- Is it realistic?
- Can I make a return on my investment within a realistic timeframe (maybe 3-6 months)?
- Are the promises that the coaches I'm being tempted by realistic promises?
- Does the coach have a track record?
- Can I get the information from a book, a google search, or from talking to some of my friends who are in business?
- What else could I do with the money I'd spend on a coach?
- What will be my measures of success from working with the coach?
- Will having a coach give me the success I need or the validity I seek?
- Do I need to be this kind of real if the measure of my success as a coach is having a coach?